Here are some helpful hints to building your child's self-esteem.
1. Value your child--Adults who express unconditional positive regard and acceptance for their children create an atmosphere that promotes optimistic attitudes and a willingness to take risks.
2. Let your child know that even when he or she makes a mistake and experiences failure that he or she is valued by others and are loved, especially by significant adults in their lives.
3. Listen to your child--Listen carefully to your child's experiences and opinions. When a child has hurt feelings or is frightened, adults can acknowledge the feeling by saying, "I can see that you are sad. I'd like to hear about what happened."
4. Set appropriate boundaries and expectations--Parents who set firm and consistent boundaries for their child's behavior tend to create environments that are reasonable and predictable, where the child feels safe to explore and take risks.
5. Teach problem solving skills--Focus on solving the problem rather than blaming the child creates feelings of competency.
6. Praise effort--Praise your child in ways that acknowledge their efforts and focus on the process as well as the outcome.
7. Provide opportunities for success--Parents can help their child by choosing activities that are developmentally appropriate and that provide opportunities for their child to feel successful.